So I’m not going to sugar coat it maintaining a healthy relationship with a baby is bloody hard! The little things that make a relationship “cute” like snuggling on the sofa, going to watch a movie or going for a midnight drive are pretty hard to come by. A baby consumes most of your time and although I adore her in every way possible I have also accepted that it has changed the dynamic of our personal life. These a few tips that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with a baby.
Tip 1: Make time for each other. Schedule in weekly or even monthly date nights so that you have quality time without baby. You need to remind each other that you are still a couple as well as mother and father. Also having a bit of fun will keep the spark alive and remind you that you are still young!
Tip 2: Try not to start every conversation with ‘Baby….’ I am definitely guilty for this. But remember that you man wants to be acknowledged as well. Before you give him that update on every poo, burp and giggle baby did while he was gone. Ask him how his day was first, so he knows you are still interested in his life too.
Tip 3: Arrange family activities. This is something I would like to do more. But my favourite weekends are ones where we are spending time together as a family of 3. Even if it’s just taking a trip into town, or going to the park.
Tip 4: Compromise . You naturally will have to alter and cut certain activities out of your life but talk about the things you still want to include e.g gym, meeting friends so you can help each other out. Women you still have a right to go out on your own or meet up with friends if you wish!
Tip 5: Remind each other of your love. We are constantly telling our baby how loved and special they are but we sometimes forget to do the same to our partners. A bunch of flowers or cooking up their favourite meal are all small gestures that go a long way. Oh and don’t forget those three little words!… ‘I love you’